Kids Away From Home? How to Face Divorce Alone

When two parents get divorced, there is a time of transition all members of the family will have to face. With a life-altering change like this one, there are many smaller changes that will be felt even stronger than they may have before. In particular, the transition of children moving away from home can be a challenging one to navigate. As a recently divorced parent this may be your first time living alone in years, and this transition could be shocking or distressing.

When you live alone again for the first time in a long time, the home may feel unnaturally silent. Even with the TV on or music playing, it may still feel strange to not hear the voices and sounds you were used to hearing. However, there is research that suggests silence is good for your mental health. This change may be difficult, but it allows room for growth and opportunity.

Mr. David Badanes Esq. of Badanes Law Office on Long Island shared some suggestions on how to adjust to an increase in alone time after divorce.

  • Trying new hobbies or getting back into old ones is a great way to spend your new alone time. New experiences or returning to hobbies you used to love will help you adjust to a new routine and your new life. Below are a couple of hobbies that may be especially helpful to a newly divorced person.
    • Learn to cook. Cooking is a great hobby that has a positive impact on your life. Especially if you were not the spouse that usually did the cooking, taking a cooking class will improve your lifestyle.
    • Your mental health may suffer when you go through a divorce, so it’s important to take care of it as best you can. One way to do that is to get exercise. Getting exercise can release endorphins that make you feel good and can improve your alertness. In addition, exercise is a great hobby that will take up time and get you out of the house, especially if you join a gym.
  • Host a party. It’s important to strengthen your friendships and relationships after divorce. This will allow you to see a life outside of your previous marriage. A great, fun way to engage with your friends is to have a party. If you just moved, you could have a house-warming party to show your friends your new place.
  • Join a support group. This is another great way to care for your mental health after divorce. You may feel isolated or alone without your kids in the house and with your new alone time, but you are not isolated. Joining a support group will help you experience this and meet other people going through a similar time.

After divorce, there will be an abundance of changes in your life, especially regarding your personal life and routines. As daunting as these changes may initially seem, they are manageable. The intense time of transition will go away in time as you get used to your new life.

David Badanes, Esq. and the Badanes Law Office, P.C. provides real-world advice to help you through this challenging time. If you are contemplating getting a divorce, and need a divorce lawyer to represent you, call David Badanes and the Badanes Law Office today at 631-239-1702 or email at david@dbnylaw.com. The Badanes Law Office has offices in Northport, Suffolk County and Uniondale, Nassau County.

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