Deciding on whether you want to file for a divorce is a very hard decision. It is literally “life-changing”. You have probably seen some of your friends or relatives go through a divorce. You know that in many of those situations, the divorce itself was very difficult. However, you may also know some situations, where the divorcing couple were able to get divorced and able to do it in a civil and amicable manner.
For many people who are considering whether or not to get divorced, it may take them weeks or even months to actually start the process. They may be looking for a “perfect time” or they keep coming up with excuses to put off the divorce.
The following questions may help you decide whether now (or in the future) is the right time to file for a divorce.
- Is there domestic violence? If the answer is yes, then you should be seeking a divorce and you probably should file as soon as possible. Even if it is just the “first time” that there was a domestic violence incident. In almost every case, if there is a first time, there will be many more times of domestic violence.
- Is your spouse having an affair (or are you having an affair)? If you are having an affair, then clearly, you are unhappy in your marriage and you should file for a divorce. If your spouse is having an affair (and you find out about it), then they are unhappy in the marriage and you are probably not getting the love and attention you deserve.
- You are in a “loveless” marriage. Even if you or your spouse are not having an affair, but, you are just living together like roommates, then that may be an indication that your marriage is not working. This may be a time to seek marriage counseling or it may be a signal that your marriage isn’t working.
- What about the children? If you have children, then this will be a major factor to consider in getting divorced. If the living situation is very tense because of your marriage difficulties, this will affect your children. Sometimes, staying married for “the sake of the children” is actually worse for the children then getting divorced. The constant fighting or tension can have a very negative effect on the children. Therefore, don’t stay married just because you have children. However, of course, you will need to consider what will happen to the children during the divorce and after the divorce.
- Do you think about getting divorce often? If you are thinking about getting divorced, then it probably is a good indication that you should get divorced.
Divorce can be hard and there will never be the perfect time to get divorced. David Badanes has helped countless clients going through their divorce and navigating them through the process. Visit us on Facebook to get important legal news, tips, and articles: www.facebook.com/BadanesLawOffice.