How to Divorce A Narcissist

Divorce is a complicated process that is becomes even more difficult when you’re dealing with a narcissist. Here are a few things to keep in mind when divorcing a narcissist.

What is a narcissist? A narcissist is a person who is extremely self-centered, beyond what is considered normal. Narcissism in a spouse can take many forms, including never admitting to their faults, feeling the need to take control of their children or spouse’s lives, and a distorted sense of self.

How do I know if I’m dealing with a narcissist? In many situations, a narcissist may refuse to hand over important documentation or information, make false claims about the marriage, or offer a settlement in an insincere manner. A narcissistic spouse may also offer to try using a mediator instead of going to trial. It may be difficult to reach a settlement with a narcissist as they will be unwilling to compromise due to their inflated ego.

How can I deal with a narcissist? Dealing with a narcissist can be very difficult during the divorce process. The best way to handle a narcissistic spouse is as follows. The first thing you can do is recognize your spouse’s narcissism and understand that this will further complicate the divorce process.

Second, you will need to prepare any documentation and information pertaining to the marriage including financial information such as bank statements, shared assets, retirement funds etc.

Third, if you negotiate with a narcissistic spouse, be prepared for disingenuous offers. All offers should be made in writing. In this manner, you should be able to maintain control over the negotiation process.

Fourth, you should also be prepared for a narcissistic spouse to use money as a weapon in the divorce proceedings, whether they are the higher earning spouse or not. The narcissist will try to delay the divorce, so in return you should alert the court to their delaying tactics.

Fifth, it is important to master the art of just saying “no.”  If your narcissistic spouse makes an unreasonable request to you, deny them, do not take anytime to “think about it.”

Divorcing a narcissist is no easy task, but it can be done if you have access to the right tools and resources.

If you are thinking of getting a divorce you need a professional who will help you throughout the entire process. David Badanes, Esq. and the Badanes Law Office, P.C. provides real-world advice to help you through this challenging time. If you are contemplating getting a divorce, and need an attorney to represent you, call David Badanes and the Badanes Law Office today at 631-239-1702, email at or visit our web The Badanes Law Office has offices in Northport, Suffolk County and Uniondale, Nassau County.

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