Here are the top 5 mistakes that you do NOT want to make in your divorce.

1. Using your friends and family for your legal advice. When you are going through a divorce, many well-intentioned friends and family members will give you their advice. They typically will start by saying “In my divorce, I got …”. Although, they mean well, each divorce is unique and just because your friend “got” something, doesn’t mean that you will.

2. Not telling your attorney the truth or telling your attorney only “half the story.” One of the worst mistakes you can make is not telling your attorney everything and/or not telling your attorney the truth. Invariably the true facts and the entire facts will come out. If you fail to tell your attorney everything, that will only put your attorney and your divorce in a bad situation. Indeed, if the Judge believes that you lied or are evading the truth, this will lead the Judge to believe that you are always lying. Even if the facts are embarrassing, you must tell your attorney the entire facts.

3. Representing yourself. No matter how much reading and studying of the law that you do, if you try to represent yourself, you will most likely will fail. First, you are too emotionally involved in the case. Your divorce needs someone who can separate the emotional aspects of your case from the facts of the case. Second, you will never be able to bring the years of experience that a seasoned attorney can to the case. As the saying goes, only a fool would represent themselves in a case. Third, your attorney will know strategies on how best to handle your situation.

4. Using your attorney as your therapist. Attorneys are trained in the law they are not mental health professionals. If you need a therapist, then you need to hire one.

5. Posting on Facebook (or other social media sites). Clients will post all sorts of things on Facebook. Everything you say and post will be held against you. While you are going through a divorce, the best thing you can do, is shut your Facebook account down.

Instead of making these mistakes, it is best to hire an attorney who can give you the best advice on how to handle your divorce. David Badanes and the Badanes Law Office has helped numerous individuals with divorces and in making sure that their client do not make any mistakes. If you need an attorney to represent you in your divorce, call David Badanes and the Badanes Law Office today at 631-239-1702, email me at or visit our web site: