Halloween Trick Or Treat Tips For A Divorced Parent

After divorce, it is no longer a given that parents will spend holidays together with their children. Holidays are often split between parents, either by year or by day, which is a big change for everyone involved. With Halloween approaching, newly divorced parents may be wondering how trick or treating with their children will look for them. Thankfully, there are great options for divorced parents to consider so they can still spend Halloween with their children, and ensure their kids are having as much fun as they would in years prior.

Mr. David Badanes Esq. of Badanes Law Office on Long Island shared his suggestions of the best options for divorced families wanting to celebrate Halloween.

Trick or treat together. Even after divorce, some parents choose to spend holidays together with their kids. This is a great option for Halloween, as it is easy to go trick or treating together. However, this option is not for everyone—for some divorced parents, it is best to celebrate separately. If there is still tension or resentment involved, trick or treating together may make things worse. Kids are smart and if negative feelings are involved, they will likely pick up on it.

Split up the route. Another great option is to split up the trick or treat route between parents. One parent can take the first half and the other parent can take the second half. This option doesn’t disrupt the child’s fun, but still gives each parent an opportunity to trick or treat with their child.

Go to an event. While trick or treating is the most common way to celebrate Halloween, it is not the only way. Many businesses, churches, or organizations put on Halloween festivals with candy, crafts, bounce houses, slides and more. These events are typically earlier than trick or treating time, so this is a great way for a divorced parent to have fun with their kid on Halloween without taking away from trick or treating. With this option, kids can have different types of fun with different parents.

Make new traditions. It’s important for kids to know they will still have fun times after their parents go through a divorce. Kids should have things to look forward to, since all the traditions they know will look different. Thankfully, the fall season brings many opportunities to start new traditions, even beyond Halloween. This time of year, is a great time for pumpkin picking, apple picking, fall festivals, hay rides, haunted houses and more! Divorced parents have many opportunities to make new memories and traditions with their kids in the fall season.

Holidays don’t have to be complicated for divorced parents if they prioritize the children above their own desires. Most of the time parents don’t get their ideal situation for holidays after divorce, but there are a number of options that appeal to both children and adults.

It’s up to you to decide which option for Halloween is best for your family. If you’re having trouble with your Halloween plans and would like some advice, reach out to David Badanes. He will use his extensive experience working with divorce situations to help you make the best decision.

David Badanes, Esq. and the Badanes Law Office, P.C. provides real-world advice to help you through this challenging time. If you are contemplating getting a divorce, and need an attorney to represent you, call David Badanes and the Badanes Law Office today at 631-239-1702, email at david@dbnylaw.com. The Badanes Law Office has offices in Northport, Suffolk County and Uniondale, Nassau County.

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College and High School Graduation for Divorced Parents

College and high school graduation are a time for celebration, and this should not change for a family with divorced parents. The focus of graduation ceremonies and parties should always be the child; divorced parents need to remember this and act in a way that puts the child first. This milestone may look different for each family depending on the dynamic, but the ultimate goal at hand for every family should be to prioritize the best interests of the child.

Mr. David Badanes Esq. of Badanes Law Office on Long Island has shared advice on how divorced parents can enjoy their child’s graduation, so that it remains a celebration.

  • Parents should receive the tickets. When a couple separates, new partners often come into the family, but, regardless of how involved new partners are in a child’s life, the child’s parents should receive graduation tickets first. If a child receives extra tickets to a graduation, new partners can use the extra tickets in that situation. If you do not have enough tickets for the parents and new partners, talk to the principal of the high school or college to see if they could provide any extra tickets.
  • There is no need to sit together. Parents are there to support their child, but this does not mean they need to sit in the same place. If sitting together could take the focus off the child, then divorced parents should choose to sit apart.
  • If you see your ex-spouse, be cordial. A graduation is not the time to discuss the divorce or argue with your ex-spouse. Your child will be watching you and will sense if you fight with your ex. Keep the focus on the child.
  • Parties can be together or separate. If you get along with your ex-spouse, a joint graduation party may be a good idea. However, if you suspect this could lead to conflict, then separate graduation parties may be a better decision. Just ensure the parties occur on different days.
  • Do not compete with your ex. If your ex can afford an expensive graduation party or gift, do not feel the need to match their expense with a party or gift you cannot afford. There is no need to compete with your ex over gifts for your child—your child knows and understands your financial situation.

Graduation ceremonies and parties are wonderful opportunities to celebrate your child and separated parents should do everything they can to maintain this celebration. This may look different for each family, but everyone should make decisions in the best interests of the child.

David Badanes, Esq. and the Badanes Law Office, P.C. provides real-world advice to help you through this challenging time. If you are contemplating getting a divorce, and need an attorney to represent you, call David Badanes and the Badanes Law Office today at 631-239-1702, email at david@dbnylaw.com or visit our web site: www.dbnylaw.com. The Badanes Law Office has offices in Northport, Suffolk County and Uniondale, Nassau County.

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Divorce And College Financial Aid: FAFSA Tips For Divorced Or Separated Parents

College: As many parents know, college is expensive and financial aid can be difficult to obtain.  If you are getting divorced or you are already divorced, this just adds another level of complexity to the college financial aid maze. Here are some tips that will help you navigate this maze.

#1 Make sure to Fill Out the FAFSA (Free Application for Federal Student Aid) form as early as possible and correctly. In almost every college, you need to fill out the FAFSA to be considered for any type of financial aid, including, grants, loans, scholarships and work-study programs. It is important to fill out the FAFSA form as soon as possible. It is doubly-important to make sure that the form is filled out correctly. If you have trouble filling out the FAFSA form, there are resources and agencies that can help. You may also want to ask your child’s school if they have any resources to help parents fill out the FAFSA form.

#2 Which parent to put down on the FAFSA form. There are a few scenarios in deciding which parent to list on the FAFSA form.

  • Parents are divorce or separated and do not live together: Then you only list the custodial parent’s income on the form. As it pertains to the FAFSA form, the custodial parent MAY be different than what the divorce agreement states. For purposes of FAFSA, the custodial parent is the one that the child live with most in the last 12 months.
  • Parents are divorced or separated, but, they still live together. Here, you have to list both parent’s income on the form.
  • Parents are divorced, do not live together, and the custodial parent is now remarried. You have to list your step-parent’s income as well as the custodial parent on the form.
  • Always double-check with the Department of Education on their latest rules. The Department of Education may change its rules. They also have some good tools in helping you complete the form.

#3 Child Support versus Alimony (spousal maintenance). You have to state how much child support the custodial parent either received or paid on the FAFSA form. However, you do not have to state how much alimony you received or paid, that is because alimony is already included (or deducted) from your taxable income and is already on the FAFSA form. Do not make the common mistake of listing both child support and alimony.

#4 Recent Divorce and lead to trouble. If the divorce is recent, then this may lead to a FAFSA error. If the newly divorced parents filed a joint tax return in the last tax year, then the tax information will not reflect the fact that they are now divorced and they have separate incomes. In these situations, it is especially important to consult with a financial aid expert to make sure that the FAFSA form is correctly filled out.

David Badanes, Esq. has the knowledge and resource to help you get through divorce and the college financial maze. If you are thinking of getting divorced, contact the Badanes Law Office.  Call 631-239-1702 or email at david@dbnylaw.com. The Badanes Law Office has offices in Northport, Garden City, Brooklyn and Manhattan.

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