The Three Most Important Things to Know About Your Contested Divorce Case

If you are involved or going to be involved in a contested divorce, you need to know the three most important things about your case.

#1: Always follow the Court’s Orders: In a contested divorce, the Court – meaning the Judge – will probably issue various Orders. It is imperative that you follow the Court’s Orders. Every Judge wants their Orders to be followed. Disregarding a Judge’s Order will almost always get you “in hot water”. You could be held in contempt, face court fines or pay your spouse’s attorney’s legal fees.

#2: Never argue with the Judge: If you disagree with what the Judge is saying or doing, arguing in Court will typically make things worse. Let your attorney argue for you. You can certainly let your attorney know that what the Judge is saying or doing is “wrong”. The Court is used to a divorce attorney advocating (arguing) for your benefit. However, it is a rare Judge that wants to hear a party arguing themselves. Even, if you are representing yourself, although you may present your facts and legal arguments, arguing with the Judge is still not recommended.

#3: Consistently being late to Court or not going to Court at all. If you are required to be in Court (or in a virtual session), then you must: (i) attend; and (ii) be on time. No Judge wants to be waiting for you to arrive or told that you will not be arriving (unless you have a very good reason).  Even worse, if you are consistently late or absent, the Court can impose sanctions and penalties on you. Show up and be on time.

During a divorce, it is important to make sure that you follow the Three Things in this blog. Not following court orders, arguing with the Judge and/or being late will only hurt your case and worse, can lead to fines and for you to pay your spouse’s attorney’s fees.

If you are seeking a divorce, then call David Badanes and the Badanes Law Office at 631-239-1702 or email at  The Badanes Law Office main office is in Northport, Suffolk County and has a satellite office in Uniondale, Nassau County.

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Celebrity Divorce Horror Stories And What We Can Learn from Them

Nowadays, very few people are surprised when they hear of another divorced celebrity couple.  Not only is divorce common among celebrity marriages, but often the split is messy. Since celebrities have such a large following, the public is often very familiar with their chaotic, bitter, and emotional divorces.

As ordinary people, we often view celebrities on a different level from ourselves. Despite how different their lives may be from our own, when it comes to divorce, they are still two people who previously pledged themselves to each other. Therefore, we can still learn from their experiences about the problems that lead to divorce, and some of the best and worst ways to handle it.

Mr. David Badanes Esq. of Badanes Law Office on Long Island shared his thoughts on some celebrity divorce horror stories and what we can learn from them.

Brad Pitt and Angelina Jolie: The famous couple, known as Brangelina, were together for 10 years and married for two before they filed for divorce. With six children and assets worth millions of dollars at stake, their divorce proceedings are still going on, despite the filing occurring in 2016. Angelina and Brad have been to court many times, mainly fighting over custody of the children. At times Angelina was granted full custody, but the most recent settlement is a temporary ruling saying they will share custody. However, this ruling is still being contested and their divorce has been a nightmare for everyone involved.

Brangelina’s situation demonstrates how long divorce can take to finalize. Depending on the cooperation of the parties and the number of things being contested in a divorce, the court battle can go on for years. This is not an ideal situation for anyone involved, so instead of dragging on the divorce battle, the best thing to do is to find a compromise that prioritizes the needs of the children. Brad and Angelina have not been able to reach a compromise, which is why their divorce has endured for so long. If you believe you will not be able to reach a compromise with your ex-spouse, be prepared to pay quite a few visits back to court.

Kim Kardashian and Kanye West: This divorce is fairly recent— Kim filed for divorce in February 2021 after many months of conflict with ex-husband Kanye West. The end of their marriage was plagued by mental health issues, religious differences, physically residing in different states, and a conflict-ridden Presidential campaign. Their marriage was under immense stress, and eventually, they realized their problems were irreconcilable. Since their divorce, they have focused on co-parenting their four children together, and have even shown publicly they are on good terms.

Kim and Kanye’s situation clearly shows that divorce can occur when lifestyles, beliefs, and priorities become too divided between a couple. Kim and Kanye publicly had issues for a long time, especially the last year of their marriage. Irreconcilable differences are an extremely common reason for divorce and while the events leading up to Kim and Kanye’s split were extremely dramatic and messy, after they decided to divorce, their focus shifted to their children. When there is no hope for reconciliation between two people, the best thing to do is to put your differences behind you and focus on your kids.

Arnold Schwarzenegger and Maria Shriver: After being married for 25 years, and having 4 children together, Maria Shriver filed for divorce from Arnold Schwarzenegger. The divorce quickly became a scandal when it was revealed Schwarzenegger fathered a child with a household staff member over 10 years earlier. After the scandal broke, Schwarzenegger took responsibility for his actions, and it seemed like the couple would divorce on good terms. Despite this, the divorce still drags on 10 years later.

Even if there is remorse or responsibility taken in divorce, the legal proceedings do not necessarily go smoothly. Schwarzenegger and Shriver seemingly had a stable relationship following the initial split, yet their divorce is taking over a decade to finalize. Divorce is complicated and unpredictable; even when two parties seem cordial with one another, the legal side can still take a long time and be filled with conflict.

Celebrities have very different lives from most of us, but during cases of divorce, the basic reasons and conflicts they face are often relatable. The longevity of the divorce process, conflicts between personal relationships and legal proceedings, and contributing factors to divorce, such as cheating, mental health, religious disagreements, and irreconcilable differences are all common aspects of divorce. Since celebrity breakups get a lot of attention and coverage, we can use their stories as examples to learn what to do, and what not to do, during a divorce.

David Badanes, Esq. and the Badanes Law Office, P.C. provides real-world advice to help you through this challenging time. If you are contemplating getting a divorce, and need an attorney to represent you, call David Badanes and the Badanes Law Office today at 631-239-1702, email at or visit our web site: The Badanes Law Office has offices in Northport, Suffolk County and Uniondale, Nassau County.

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What Is The Process Of A Contested Divorce? Video

Straight talk with David Badanes, Esq., an experienced divorce attorney who has been assisting individuals with postnuptial agreements, and with matrimonial law issues.

What is the process of a contested divorce?

If you are involved in a contested divorce, there are many stages involved in a contested divorce. The first thing that will happen will be a preliminary conference. You and your spouse are required to go to court and the attorneys, and you may meet with the judge to give the basic information to the judge about your particular case – how many children, what your income is, whether you own a house, what your general assets are. It’s not a full-blown hearing. It’s a meeting with the judge to get the basic information about your divorce. That’s what a preliminary conference is.

After the preliminary conference, typically the next stage is what’s called discovery. This is where you and your spouse will exchange information with the respective attorneys or all the documents involved in your financial information, income taxes, bank information, pension information, insurance information, and all the financial documents that will be needed for the divorce.

After the discovery is completed. There may be what’s called a deposition or what some people call EBT. Deposition is where you sit down, and the attorney gets to ask you with questions about your financials. Again, how much income you make, how much schooling you’ve had, how many child support you’ve been paying. The other attorney gets to ask you questions, and your attorney gets to ask your spouse with questions as well.

After deposition, there will be preparation for a trial. And that again goes through the financial information and prepares you for trial. And then eventually, there will be a trial scheduled and at the day of the trial typically the judge will ask if there’s been a settlement or can the parties go and try to settle the case. The judges always like to have settlements even on the day of trial. If you cannot settle the case then, of course, there will be a trial and that could by anywhere from one day, 3 days or 3 weeks depending on how complicated your divorce is.

How Long Does it Take to Get Divorced: Video

As a matrimonial and family law attorney many of my clients ask me “How long does it take to get divorced?” The answer is “it depends”.

If you have a simple uncontested divorce, where everyone signs all the paperwork, then your divorce can be submitted to the court system within days. However, the court may take several months before it actually approves your divorce.

If you have a complicated contested divorce, then your divorce could take up to 3 years. There have been some extreme cases where a divorce can take longer than 5 years.
However, most contested divorces take about 1 to 2 years.