Back to School Tips for Separated or Divorced Parents

Going back to school can be a stressful time for a child, especially when their parents are newly divorced. However, with proper communication and cooperation, the parents can make the transition to school much easier for the child.

  1. Make your child your top priority: Your child’s wellbeing should be your top priority. Any issues you have with your ex-spouse should not affect your child’s educational experience.
  2. Attend school events with your ex-spouse: Whether it be parent-teacher conferences or various school functions, it is important that you both attend school events and conferences. Your child will benefit from having both parents attend their school events.
  3. Work with your ex-spouse as much as possible: Although there may be tensions between you and your ex-spouse, it is important to keep these differences outside of the school setting.
  4. Review home routines and rules with your ex-spouse: Routines are crucial to your child’s success at school. The smoother the transition between the child’s homes, the easier it will be for your child to maintain focus on their school work. Be sure to communicate and standardize bedtimes, mealtimes, playtime, and screen time.
  5. Communication is key: Be sure to communicate any schedule changes, or relay important information given by the school, after school advisors, or coaches to your ex-spouse. It is especially important to do so when the child’s school activities conflict with the other parent’s time with the child.
  6. Back to school shopping expenses: Typically, back to school expenses are the responsibility of the custodial parent. However, offering to help with these expenses may help ease tensions between you and your ex-spouse.
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Divorce And Start Of School Year

Perhaps you just got divorced, or you have been divorced for a few years, but, your children are about to start school for the first time or enter a new school for the first time. Here are some tips to help you and your children with the transition.

  • Contact the School and the Principal: Before the school year starts, it is a good idea to contact the principal and tell them that your child will be new to the school. You should also make it clear that the child has two parents, but, that you are divorced.
  • Take a Tour of the School. Almost every school will allow you and your child to take a tour of the school. This will help your child get to know the school.
  • Ask if there are any other new students. Ask the school if there are any other new students to the school. Perhaps you can start a new support group of new students and new parents.
  • Look at the school’s website. Every school district and school should have a website. It is a good idea to look at the website and get familiar with what the school has posted.
  • Put everything in writing. You or your attorney should write to the principal and the Superintendent of the School to inform them of your rights and what you expect.

In your divorce, it is very important to make sure that your child’s school knows your situation. It is also important that you help your child with the transition to his/her new school.

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